I Want To Change But Something Is Holding Me Back

Yes. That is true. Whenever we try to change an old habit, there is something that holds us back. Have you ever brought up a conversation with a friend or your partner about something they do that annoys you or have you ever been the person who does something that annoys your partner or a friend and they tell you about it?

Many times when we are 'accused of' a bad habit we will change the subject. Why is that? because we know that whatever it is that annoys them - and maybe it is something that anoys us too - needs some work to get rid of but we avoid the 'pain' of doing the work. Thus, whenever someone tells us 'you know, what you are doing is bad' we will say 'can we change the subject?' or we may even change the subject without even asking.

A bad habit is adopted for two reasons: comfort (such as comfort eating) or pleasure; or both. When we realise we have to change that, our body 'kicks' showing that 'you don't have to do that work to get rid of that habit. You're fine as you are'. And cunningly makes your brain work in a loop.

That is the secret when it comes to the brain's function: it develops a visual loop where it poses you a difficulty to 'see' yourself when you change the bad habit. But at the same time it causes you emotional distress. And that means you have difficulty in having a vision. Without a vision you can't proceed; you are trapped in a vicious cycle. That very fact, is enough to discourage you from even talking about it. What we need to do is to keep pushing that boundary to get that vision which will clear our intentions.